How to Prevent Abuse

KNOW: Understanding how those who intend harm often operate is an important step in protecting children. When we know what to look for, we’re better equipped to take action and prevent abuse before it happens.

How Abuse Can Happen:

• Access: An individual may seek ways to spend time with a child without drawing attention.

• Privacy: They often look for opportunities to be alone with a child, away from the view of others.

• Control: They may use their position or influence to gain a child’s trust or silence.

SEE: One of the best ways to protect kids is by staying alert to behaviors that may cross boundaries or raise concern. These actions don’t always mean abuse is happening, but they can be warning signs that something isn’t right.

Physical Boundaries:
Be cautious and be aware of individuals who regularly engage in behavior like:

• Tickling

• Horseplay or roughhousing

• Giving massages

• Wrestling

Emotional Boundaries:

Watch for behaviors like:

• Picking favorites or forming exclusive relationships

• Acting possessive or overly involved

• Sending frequent or inappropriate messages

Behavioral Boundaries:
Some individuals may try to influence kids to hide things or break rules, such as:

• Encouraging them to sneak around or lie about where they are

• Asking them to keep secrets

By knowing what to look for and trusting your instincts, you can help create a safer, more supportive environment for your child and others. Together we can help create safer environments where all children are protected and supported.

RESPOND: Take action based on what you observe and what you know to help prevent inappropriate or questionable behavior. If you notice warning signs or hear something concerning from your child, report it right away.

When a child discloses inappropriate behavior or abuse, your response plays a key role in their sense of safety and healing. Here's how you can support them:

• Stay calm so your child feels safe opening up
• Offer comfort and reassurance

• Listen closely without interrupting

• Ask for gentle examples if you need more information

• Avoid criticizing or threatening the person your child mentioned

If you see or hear something concerning, please let a YMCA program director know right away. We encourage guardians to use our anonymous reporting form to ensure your concerns are heard confidentially and promptly addressed.

Anonymous Reporting Form

If you believe someone is in immediate danger, call 911. Your voice and actions help keep kids safe.